Seeking to Understand.

Articles, life

Hi Everyone,

It’s been a while since I wrote. Life happened. I’ve wanted to update pictures and stories about my vacations and my life. I’ve also considered writing about issues that I think are important to the world, such as the election, issues in society, etc. I’ve held back a lot about sharing my personal opinions but I realized that’s why I want my site to be about. Caring. Caring about an issue, a person, society, politics, life. I don’t expect everyone to agree with me but I do hope that people can seek to understand my views and educate me as I hope to educate you.

I saw the below linked article on LinkedIn. At first, I thought it was going to be an article trashing homeless individuals and I could already feel myself being annoyed or angry. Let me start off by saying this, I have always had a soft spot for homeless individuals. Since I was younger, I always wondered why people were homeless. Why was everyone else finding a way to survive and fund their lifestyle yet these people sleep on the streets and have trouble getting money to buy food?

https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/get-job-truth-homeless-derek-zeller?trk=hp-feed-article-title-like

One time in middle school, our spirit week had a day to dress like a “bum.” I didn’t participate and it saddened me that not only would student’s think of that as a “spirit day” activity, but that the ASB/Leadership teacher would actually approve it. I remember thinking “that’s so sad…when homeless people see these kids walking home it’s going to make them feel bad about themselves.”

Years later, I started dating my boyfriend (who I’ve known for many years) and he had just gotten at a homeless shelter. A shelter that houses homeless single adults for months until they could save, get a job, and try rent a room or studio and get back on their feet. I applaud the work he does, for it is not an easy job. I was able to learn so much from him and I truly gained a deeper understanding for why things are the way they are, some of them are touched on in the above article.

Sometimes homeless individuals are felons, addicts, alcoholics, domestic violence victims, someone who filed for bankruptcy. You never know who you’re seeing. The thing about being homeless: it’s hard for people to see your value. It’s hard for employers to look past your dirty clothes and take you seriously about a job interview. It’s hard for society to think anything other than “get a job,” “lazy,” etc. And just like mentioned in the article, do people seriously think a job at Walmart paying shitty wages (I don’t support Walmart or Sam’s Club and probably never will) will house a single adult and pay for utilities and food and all the things necessary to live a basic life? It’s not as easy as it sounds.

I saw one guy comment on the article saying that sometimes people choose their addiction over a job. Great. Well that opens up another can of worms. People who are addicts are typically arrested for possession or similar things. Should those folks be in jail? Probably not, they should be in rehab.  Free rehabs having long waiting lists. Other rehabs? They cost THOUSANDS. I understand running a business and wanting a profit, but it is disgusting to profit so much over other peoples misfortunes (I’m talking expensive, luxury rehabs – think about the “Passages” in Malibu commercial always on).

The thing is, people are homeless for many reasons. Many unfortunate reasons. We need more help with substance abuse, mental illness, justice system, etc to be able to even make a change in homelessness.

Empathy. Understanding. Love. It truly would make the world a better place to be.

 

Til’ Next Time,

Lyss.

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The Important Things

life

Hello! It’s been a while, I know. I’ve been busy and haven’t had time to photograph new outfits and I’ve kind had a case of writers block. HOWEVER, I came across this picture on my explore page on Instagram the other day and I just absolutely love it!

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It’s funny because I personally think I changed a lot throughout my college years, especially when me and my boyfriend of 4.5 years decided to go separate ways. I became so much more intuitive and mindful. As a result of becoming more mindful, I would typically say (and still do) “the more you learn, the more you realize you don’t know sh*t.” I stand behind this 100% still.

Most people think that we should get educated to land great jobs with high paying salaries. It’s part of the American dream. I’ve always thought about it differently. Of course I want a fat check to be able to live comfortably without financial worries. At the same time, I think college is important because it’s an experience. We experience different feelings, meet different people, explore different topics, and really – we challenge most of what we ‘knew’ before. Being educated and aware and mindful helps us realize that we are so incredibly insignificant in this giant world.

I know the picture is explaining something a little different, but I think it kind of goes hand in hand. We are so wrapped up in what we think we know and the lives that we live that we forgot how small we are. Just like the photo states, when you look into infinity, you realize that there are more important things than what people do all day. The Housewives binge-watching, the shoe buying, Mercedes driving, traffic complaining, work stressing; it’s all so small and insignificant.

There are more important things going on in our lives and in the world. More important things to focus on, put our energy into, thrive off of, etc.

I once had a Professor who always told us to be ready to die any day. He would say “When you wake up, ask yourself if today is a good day to die. Think of how you have treated others; the two-legged ones, the four-legged ones, the winged ones.” I have fallen off track and failed miserably lately, but I am trying to get back into that.

So, I ask you all now. Is today a good day to die? Are you proud of what you’ve accomplished and how you’ve made others feel?

Til’ Next Time,

Lyss.

What The Hell Do I Want To Do With My Life?

life

It’s been a while since I’ve added anything to my site. Work has been extra rough this week and I’ve been stressed out. I am finally able to start my weekend!

When I started college, I knew I wanted to be a community college counselor. I wanted to do this so I could help students who were ‘stuck’ in community college advance to universities and earn degrees. I was a Human Services major with an emphasis in Mental Health. I had plans of going to graduate school after CSU Fullerton to obtain a Masters in Educational Counseling and start my dream job of being a counselor.

Within a week after college, I received the opportunity to be a paid intern for a large corporation in their Labor Relations department. I had a brief understanding of what Labor Relations was but I didn’t have in-depth experience or knowledge on the topic. I decided to take the paid internship because it would be a fresh experience out of college! And it paid well…so there’s that. Anyway, I really adored the people I worked with and all the knowledge I was gaining. It was my first experience in a corporate/business setting since all my previous internships had been in community college or high school settings.

I knew I was going to get a Masters no matter what, so I switched from Educational Counseling to Masters in Human Resources Management (the closest thing to Labor Relations at the school I had already chosen).  So I moved on from my internship to another HR job and started my Masters in HR. It was tough as hell. Working full time and going to graduate school is not easy, but it can be done and I did it!

It wasn’t until I was about to start another job in HR with more money and better perks that I started thinking “Is this really what I want to do with my life?” and it isn’t. I like HR but it doesn’t keep me going. I am not passionate about it and I don’t like the idea of only contributing to a business in order to make the CEO or whomever more money.

I like the idea of helping people in need. I like to make the world a better place and truly change people’s lives. So, I made a mistake. I want to be back in school or nonprofit settings where I work with individuals who can benefit from my guidance or knowledge of high education systems.

So to all of you that don’t know what you want to do with your life…… that’s the case for a lot of us. Don’t beat yourself up. Just make a new path. I am definitely trying to!

Til’ Next Time,

Lyss.

Life as Lyss

life

Hi Everyone!

I know I have an “about” section that gives you a tiny glimpse of who I am. However, I wanted to take some time to write this post and share a little bit more about myself. It’s easier to relate to someone’s blog/site/posts when you feel like you know them a little more personally. 

So – about Lyss? I was born and raised in Orange County, California.

I am a part of a family of six. Mom, dad, and 3 other siblings. I am the oldest of the bunch and we consist of 3 sisters and 1 brother. Being the oldest is hard work! Other siblings don’t understand that being the oldest is difficult. You definitely have to set a great example while also learning a lot of things on your own. Also, parents are always the most strict with the oldest! There are so many things my teenage siblings do now that I was never allowed to even mention at their age. Ah, the beauty of being the oldest. 

I attended CSU Fullerton and graduated with a Bachelor of Science in 2014. I immediately started a Masters in Human Resource Management after graduation. I obtained my Masters in October of 2015. School is very important to me for a variety of reasons. First off, I’ve always been extremely curious and interested in learning new things. My parents say I was always pretty independent in terms of homework and school assignments since I started school. I hope to go back to school for more elective classes one day but not quite yet.

Some of my other interests include hiking, being at the beach (aka my favorite place in the world), reading, shamelessly watching Real Housewives, shopping, hanging out with my two best friends, or being a spectator at my boyfriend’s Jiu -Jitsu competitions. 

I think that’s all I got for now. Feel free to comment / use the contact form to let me know anything else I should mention!

Happy Hump Day! & Til’ Next Time,

Lyss